Anger is a powerful human emotion that we all experience. It is often ignited by personal triggers that propel us into a state of heightened emotion. In these moments, we often create stories around the source of our anger, intensifying the turmoil.

Physiologically, anger tenses our muscles, quickens our heartbeat, raises our blood pressure, and we can forget about the grounding nature of our spiritual practice.

However, this isn't to say that anger is never helpful because it is. It can motivate us to combat injustices and help us to be agents of change. It can also teach us about establishing boundaries and, if used thoughtfully, can even strengthen relationships. Yet, it can also have the potential to be harmful to those who love and care for us.

One way to untangle ourselves from anger is to have an awareness that it is there. Odd as it might seem, sometimes we get so carried into a state of fight or flight we are unable to acknowledge what’s happening. It's important to remember that anger is a normal emotion, and we all experience it. Once we recognize what is happening, we can take a few moments to breathe deeply into the belly, which helps to regulate strong overwhelming emotions. Taking a walk can also help release tension in the body and allow us to see things more clearly. And, of course, engaging in meditation, self-compassion, and reflective journaling can be helpful for us to have a deeper understanding of the things we hold deep inside.

"My anger is trying to tell me something. Anger always carries information, but its message is seldom immediately clear. Befriending anger includes finding ways to retrieve this message."

— James D. Whitehead, Evelyn E. Whitehead in Shadows of the Heart